Kathy's Secret Shame

Cathy came to me after a Christian teacher told her that her 14-year-old, Cindy, was getting pretty tight with some older and obviously homosexual girls. I became the first person Cathy ever told about the repeated sexual abuse she suffered from her Uncle Stan as a young teen. He also molested her baby brother Phil as well.

Cathy was so ashamed of what she'd done with Uncle Stan that she hated men and their lust for girls. After Cathy married she made up every kind of excuse for why she didn't like sex, but she never told her husband the truth.

Now she had to face the hard truth. Cathy's shame and bitterness had been sowed into Cindy. Now Cindy was only friendly with effeminate boys and lesbian looking girls. Not only was she born with Cathy's disgust toward men, but when Cindy was 10 her Uncle Phil came to live with the family for a few years.

Cathy suspected Phil was gay, but she was always afraid to ask him any questions because it would probably force her own secret out into the light. Phil had indeed chosen a gay lifestyle, because he, unlike Cathy, had enjoyed the sexual games with Uncle Stan. He never molested Cindy physically, but Phil influenced Cindy's sexual outlook powerfully. He often told her that her dislike for masculine boys was just normal, and that she was probably homosexual like him. He even told Cindy to do some sexual experimenting with a girlfriend to see how it felt. It felt good physically, as it had for Uncle Phil, so Cindy decided she must be a lesbian. Uncle Phil's counsel was very wrong.